13 February 2009

Not everyone is a jerk…

Filed under: Ponderings

I tweeted today “People aren’t out to get you. They are instead just trying to further their own ends and are too unaware to see the adverse effects.” There’s a story behind this, as there is behind all things.

I’ve often found myself wondering “did that person get up this morning and decide to be a jackass today?”. Of course, most people don’t. I’m sure that there are some that do, but for the most part I think that most people don’t go out of their way to be mean or cruel to others. Most people are generally good, and want only what the rest of us want, happiness.

We all want to be happy.

Throughout my studies of Buddhism, one thing that always is at the forefront is awareness. It is said that when the Buddha was asked if he was a god, he answered “No, I am awake”. This is something I’ve struggled with personally my entire life. I’m a daydreamer. I’ve said on more than one occasion “I wish I could have a job where I could just sit and stare at the ceiling all day.”

I work on this though daily meditation and attempting to be more aware of my surroundings and interactions. I am still just a novice, but, have high hopes for my future. I still do dumb things, fail to notice completely obvious items in my day to day life and inadvertently hurt people through my actions.

This is my point. If someone like myself, who is a conscious observer, can make these mistakes, how can someone who is completely unawake do any better?

So, the next time that someone does something that really irritates you, or even harms you, remember, they probably didn’t do it on purpose. You were more than likely just collateral damage in their attempt to find happiness, not a specific target.

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